阅读理解C篇
Do you find it hard to say "no" whenever someone turns to you?
Do you feel sorry when you have to tell people that you really can't help them? And do you often agree with people even though you think differently? If so, you may be a "people-pleaser".
★________. However, going too far can make you feel stressed. The good news is, there are ways to stop being a people-pleaser.
To start with, it’s important to set "boundaries (界限)” in your life. Be clear about what you really like to do. You can also tell others that you're only available during a certain period of time.
When someone asks you for help, tell him or her that you need some time to think about it. Ask yourself: Do you really want to do this? How much time will it take? Then you'll be better able to decide.
Some people always try to please others because they have little confidence (自信) in themselves. They don’t consider their own needs and interests. In this situation, you can try meaningful self-talk. Remind yourself that you have dreams, too. You don't have to give away your time to do things that don't bring you joy.
Making a sudden change can be hard, so start by taking small steps. You may, for example, send a message to say "no”. Then, work your way up to refuse in person. Practise this in different situations, such as talking to a salesperson.
Stopping being a people-pleaser doesn't mean you have to give up being kind and helpful altogether. You can still do good things—but don't take away your own happiness!
( )61. The writer starts the passage by ______.
A. presenting opinions
B. explaining reasons
C. telling stories
D. asking questions
( )62. Which of the following can be put in ★?
A. Being friendly and helpful is a good thing
B. People-pleasers usually have a lot of friends
C. It’s wrong to make others happy
D. Saying “no” is always the best idea
( )63. According to the passage, what can you do to stop being a people-pleaser?
A. Set “boundaries” in life.
B. Refuse to help others anytime.
C. Don’t think about others’ feelings.
D. Always give away your time.
( )64. The underlined word “this” in Para. 6 refers to “______”.
A. doing things that bring you joy
B. building up confidence
C. saying “no”
D. meaningful self-talk
( )65. Which would be the best theme picture of the passage?
A. 多人合影图
B. 女孩拒绝别人的漫画图
C. 众人拼单词TEAM图
D. 跑步的人物图
文章释义
你是不是很难在别人求助时说出“不”？
当你不得不告诉别人你实在帮不了忙的时候，你会不会心生愧疚？哪怕内心想法不一样，你也常常附和别人吗？如果是这样，你或许就是一个讨好型人格的人。
★。但是，过度讨好会让你倍感压力。好在，我们有办法摆脱讨好型人格。
首先，在生活中设立边界感至关重要。想清楚自己真正想做的事，你也可以告诉别人，你只在固定时间段有空。
当有人找你帮忙时，告诉对方你需要一点时间考虑。问问自己：我真的想做这件事吗？这件事要花费我多少时间？这样你才能做出更合适的决定。
有些人总想着讨好别人，是因为极度缺乏自信。他们忽略了自己的需求和喜好。这种情况下，你可以试着进行积极的自我对话。提醒自己，你也拥有自己的梦想。不必牺牲自己的时间，去做那些无法让你快乐的事。
骤然做出改变会很难，所以可以从小事起步。比如先发消息拒绝别人，之后慢慢尝试当面拒绝。在不同场景里练习拒绝，比如和售货员沟通的时候。
改掉讨好别人的习惯，并不代表你要彻底丢掉善良和热心。你依然可以行善，但千万不要弄丢属于自己的幸福！
核心动词短语（中考必考）
1. find it hard to do sth. 发现做某事很困难
2. turn to sb. 向某人求助
3. feel sorry 感到愧疚、难过
4. agree with sb. 同意某人（的观点）
5. go too far 做得过火、走极端
6. make sb. feel stressed 使某人感到焦虑压力大
7. set boundaries 设立界限
8. be clear about… 清楚了解……
9. a certain period of time 某一段时间
10. ask sb. for help 向某人求助
11. think about 思考，考虑
12. be able to do sth. 能够做某事
13. try to do sth. 尽力做某事
14. little confidence 几乎没有自信（little表否定）
15. consider one’s own needs 考虑自身需求
16. remind sb. that… 提醒某人……
17. give away 赠送，牺牲（时间/精力）
18. bring sb. joy 给某人带来快乐
19. make a sudden change 做出突然的改变
20. start by doing sth. 从做某事开始
21. work one’s way up 循序渐进，逐步提升
22. refuse in person 当面拒绝
23. practise doing sth. 练习做某事
24. give up doing sth. 放弃做某事
25. altogether = completely 完全地
26. take away 夺走，拿走
高频名词&形容词
• people-pleaser n. 讨好型人格的人
• boundary n. 界限，边界
• confidence n. 自信（adj. confident 自信的）
• interest n. 兴趣，利益
• situation n. 情况，处境
• self-talk n. 自我对话
• salesperson n. 售货员，销售员
• happiness n. 幸福（adj. happy 开心的）
